Podcast Takeaways for the Week

by Kenneth Rayman on April 30, 2018
Over the last few days I’ve heard on a couple of my podcasts some really great insights on growth and social influence on that growth through The Front Row Factor with Jon Vroman and Impact Theory. Over the course of three episodes I was given great advice that touched on my journey, in development or my life, and recent conversations I’ve had.

Jon makes a good point on his podcast’s episode with Charlie Hoehn when he says that people often think of or treat others as the person they were yesterday instead of the person they are today or will be in the future and that can lead to unintentional dismissal of dreams out of an inherent need to protect, as with his example of parents and their growing and developing children.

Tom Bilyeu, on Impact Theory’s “After Impact” episode discussing his interview with physicist Michio Kaku, was asked by his co-host whether he thinks the positive thinking and positive psychology of a mindset is something that will become habit or if it will always be a constant exercise to remain happy. Tom’s response was amazingly on message that I can attest to as well, that the process can become second nature-like but be more of a habit itself; it’s a trigger to engage the positive re-enforcement that you’ve learned to use to keep going forward. Tom also said that the emotional response never fades but is diminished and that will allow the habit to develop or trigger.

This statement by Tom caused me to pull over on the road, into a parking lot, because I wanted to hear him say that again as I wholeheartedly agreed with him. I still have the physical reactions to the emotions I have that caused me issues in the past, but they are diminished and quickly fade because it triggers me to think about the situation in a positive form of the best outcome or what can be learned and applied elsewhere. Occasionally, as Tom does too, there are days where the events and reactions are so overwhelming that the process of triggering takes longer or doesn’t happen at all, but with time and practice those days are few and far between.

Rock Thomas, speaking with Jon Vroman, spoke of changing the label of the descriptor given to you by an external source. It was amazing to listen to this episode, from the get, because of the recent buzz around Rock, but the point on labels and how you define yourself really hit home. After hearing, “The words that follow ‘I am’ follow you,” I went to my next networking event and confidently said, “I am a senior living marketer as well as writer and speaker,” feeling relieved that I finally defined myself through my passions, just as I had a few days earlier when a friend introduced me to a group as a writer on Russia. Rock’s talk on taking on the label given to you like “shy” resonated with me because I HAD let myself be defined by those things, I was “shy” until I got to know you but outside of a certain circle, “shy” was looked at as an excuse and not me at all but I still hid behind it. Rock also took responsibility for the lack of headway that was his own doing, like not personally seeking out the resources that could’ve changed his circumstances and the potential of blame getting assigned elsewhere, (which was my story).

Being able to follow these incredible pieces of advice, and incredible people, has given me the words to describe what I usually cannot convey myself and share to a wider audience, through either here, my Instagram, or my industry. If in my industry, I put them into the context of matters of leadership or the care of a person in our charge that might benefit from the resource and a reframing of the context of what they personally may be dealing with. I was at an emotional rock bottom when I found these resources and people and I am the happiest I have ever been in my life, just from taking in the information, thinking about it critically, and trying it; not from subscribing to a thought process or way of life that wasn’t my own but from realizing that you can learn, adapt, and grow, and with practice better yourself without much changing but your outlook, or the lens of, on your life.