A Rock Bottom Is Subjective

by Kenneth Rayman on November 11, 2018

I recently heard something that caused me to pull off the interstate and do the rough draft of this thought. The speaker on the podcast episode was someone who I’d known of through Jon Vroman’s podcast, the Front Row Factor. When I first heard the gentleman’s story last year it was framed, context wise, with his battle with cancer and his extremely upbeat attitude. Going down the podcast rabbit hole I found his own podcast, Achieve Your Dreams, and found a keynote he mentioned in an episode, right after his cancer diagnosis.

In the keynote, what made me pull over was what he talked about with happenstance in life and the rock bottom concept. He defined a rock bottom “as a moment where we’ve experienced a level of adversity that we’ve never experienced before.” He would later talk about his car wreck at 20 that almost paralyzed him. It reminded me of learning about Brendon Burchard’s car wreck and how they both looked at the wreck as a pivotal moment in their lives, not to sulk but a reminder of the fragility of life and the ability to choose the course of it. I thought about my own rock bottoms for a moment thinking “yeah, everyone’s rock bottom is different comparatively, but my rock bottoms haven’t involved a car wreck where, like Brendon, I’m staring a moonlit glistening pool of blood surrounded by broken glass. My rock bottoms couldn’t even meet Hal’s definition most of the time.” My rock bottoms have been crisis’ of confidence because I was focused on end goals that didn’t define happiness for me but they were deemed success so I was chasing something false and elusive. My rock bottoms were that way because I hadn’t gotten the tools yet to have a better mindset through having a better environment, better outlook, and most importantly self awareness.

Hal’s next keynote expanded on this rock bottom concept as the first had a different context with the audience and conference. In the second keynote he detailed excruciatingly the amount of personal uphill battles he fought with his cancer and I felt for him having had 15 years of medical crises’ in the family and personally. He detailed more about his car wreck too and his financial rock bottom after the crash of 2008. His car wreck and cancer diagnosis showed me again that life was fragile and you should do what makes you happy and, with it, bring value to the world. The financial rock bottom story showed me that like my rock bottoms, which fit the bill of never having the resources, money, or “opportunities I saw others have,” mindset was the one currency that I had that could’ve drove results and had I listened to my heart I could’ve better positioned myself with the right environment, right people and right conditions that helped foster my interests to bring opportunities. “Mindset is everything” seems so trite but it leads to so many opportunities if you don’t allow yourself to expect immediately results. Focusing on how you want to feel and taking action that, whether its talking to people about your passion, asking how you can help with another’s passion should yours align (not expecting a quick yes or turnaround), or actively doing your passion above all else (without ignoring basic needs like food and/or sleep), is the ultimate currency that you control yourself.

Like Brendon and Hal, I had a health wake up call but not one of immediate dire circumstance. My health wake up call was a lifelong condition that could potentially limit my time on earth at any time, like it had my brother at 36, and I chose that I was now going to live my dreams and share them with the world. The more I work at my craft of writing, storytelling, and speaking, the more I feel like I’m accomplishing a greater good in the world, and focusing on moving forward with it as a way to provide for myself in the future by continually working on it. But therein lays the key, don’t expect anything but be deeply convicted to it.

Hal had inspired me to know that I made the right choice signing up to attend his conference in December, Best Year Ever Blueprint, and be able to know that, like in Mindvalley U, I’m going to be in the company of incredibly driven game changers that want to accomplish goals themselves and help you accomplish yours and I’ll be able to reciprocate.